There are two aspects of everything. If there is light, then there must be darkness. If there is hope, there must be despair. If there is blessing, then there must be curse.
Likewise, there are two facets of technology as well. If it has brought many comforts in your life that you had never expected or experienced before, then it has also dragged in many bad possibilities with it.
Cyberstalking and Internet harassment are amongst the bad aspects of it that top the list.
What is Cyberstalking?
If you notice someone sending you inappropriate emails regularly or following you on every social account even though you don’t him, you are being cyberstalked.
Cyber or online stalking involves the abusive use of technology (the Internet)to harass people, monitor their every move online, follow them on every social network, send them threats-imbued emails, make insulting remarks, make sexual harassment attempts, and publicize their sensitive information.
All in all, cyberstalking is a menace that can lead to every type of physical or mental harassment that can destroy not just your privacy and but also your life.
The worst part is that the stalker can be any person. He/she can be one of your ex-friends or friends of friends, your ex-spouse or partner, your next-door neighbor, your longtime classmate, your office peers and even someone sitting next to you in a cafe.
Regardless, Cyberstalkers are people who want to destroy your relations, your friendships, your self-esteem, your career, and even your peace of mind. In fact, cyberstalking is so frightening that it has led many victims to succumb to their stress or anxiety.
To fight these minters, disguised as humans, it is necessary to understand how their brain works and what leads them to such monstrosities.
The Anatomy of a Cyberstalker
Cyberstalkers are humans just like us, but with a lot more arrogance, aggression, desperation and obsession than us.
While talking to a Newsbeat report on BBC on the topic of Cyberstalking, Psychologist Dr. Emma Short sketched a perfect profile of a Cyberstalker.
Dr. Short says that Cyberstalkers, “tend to be quite anxious and could be suffering from anxiety, depression, stress or another addiction.”
“They seem to be quite isolated and have a lack of social support which could be a result of it falling away because of the amount of time they are online,” she further added.
She says that online stalkers are usually Internet addictsss, and since they tend to spend most of their time online, they find it harder to connect with people in the real world. As a result, they tend to seek online relationships which lead them to further obsession and ultimately harassments.
Cyberstalking is an act which is not limited to any gender, ethnicity or race. In fact, according to many researches, 1 out of every 12 women and 1 out of every 45 men have been a victim of cyberstalking.
According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics on stalking, 1 in every 4 stalking victims have experienced some form of cyberstalking or cyber harassments through e-mail (83%) or instant messaging (35%).
Sometimes, most cases of cyberstalking stalking leads to cyberbullying, before turning into online or sexual harassments. According to a research on cyberbullying facts, victims who are bullied online have a greater tendency to consider committing suicide as the only option to stop being bullied.
Internet Harassment Cases
The above facts illustrate just a tip of the iceberg since these statistics are taken from cases that came to light. If truth be told, there have been many victims that have never surfaced or publicized their stories due to perceived embarrassment or anxiety.
Still, if you look around on the Internet, you can find many cyberstalking or online harassment cases that tell the terrorizing obsessions and crimes of cyberstalkers.
Take for instance the widely-publicized suicide story of Amanda Todd, who was cyberbullied
The teenager used to video chat to meet and interact with new people. Once she made an innocent mistake by flashing before a stranger on a webcam. The stranger turned out to be a cyberstalker who began to harass her on social networks and even started circulating the indecent screenshot.
Consequently, the victim succumbed to her death by suicide, not before posting a video on YouTube telling her tale.
Johanna Alperin is yet another victim of cyberstalking who was involved in a 6-year hard battle against the Cyberstalker who victimized Johanna through stalking, harassment, threats, and whatnot.
These cases seem to be growing without much fear, even though there are many Internet harassment laws in place. For instance, the harasser may face jail time upon being charged guilty. Yet, the urge to harass or stalk someone tend to overcome the fear of law for these Cyberstalkers.
Hence, it is best to stay cautious of things that could lead us to become a victim of cyberstalking.
Cyberstalking Prevention Tips
There are many preventive tips that you can consider to prevent and stop Cyberstalkers at their track.
- It is important to be cautious of strangers who you meet online, and in any case you should never reveal your personal information to them. Sometimes, it is our fault that we give such freaks a chance to make our life a living hell.
- As a parent, it is your responsibility to ensure the privacy of your kids as well as their safety. It is imperative that you must educate your kids on the dangers of cyberstalking or cyberbullying. Educate them how these activities can affect their and other’s life. Tell your kids how Cyberstalkers seek different ways to invade the privacy of people who are not careful when using the Internet.
- You should always be suspicious of emails and links sent by unknown people. In fact, you should also be suspicious of emails and links that are mailed to you by even known contacts. These links can be spoofed links that hackers or snoopers use for phishing or social engineering which ultimately lead to online harassment.
- Use encryption when using the Internet or making person-to-person contact with some through email or chat messengers.
- Use 2-factor authentication on your social media accounts as well as emails. Two-factor authentication gives a decent level of security to users in that it asks users to enter a code apart from entering a password. This way even if the password is hacked, it would become useless to the hacker since he won’t be able to access the account without a code which is sent to the user’s phone.
- If you are getting threats or vulgar remarks, immediately report them to your parents, school administrators or supervisors in the office.
As mentioned earlier, cyberstalking and Internet harassment have become a widespread menace, which if not stopped may lead to continuous sufferings and casualties.
To help spread the word, PureVPN, a Hong Kong based VPN provider, has taken the initiative to fight against cyberstalking. As an individual it is our job to join hands and start spreading its awareness and educate people how they can prevent cyberstalking.
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